撒母耳记下［第13章］
Book of 2 Samuel 13
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撒母耳记下［第13章］|Book of 2 Samuel 13【父亲回家 履行父职】
26/09/2023
引言：养不教，父之过。
一、不可疏忽 儿女的管教（V1-21）
1. 留意孩子 结交之友（V1-5）
大卫长子暗嫩爱上同父异母的妹妹她玛，相思成病。暗嫩的堂兄弟就给他出主意，装病要妹妹服侍而亲近妹妹。
当一个人心存恶念，加上损友投其所好，就会被蒙骗而选择听信坏注意，任恶者摆布！如有良朋从旁劝劝诫，或许悲剧不致发生！所以父亲要留意孩子，结交的是猪朋狗友，还是良朋益友。
2. 有求必应 宠成任性（V6-14）
大卫对暗嫩有求必应，虽然暗嫩很任性，装病要求妹妹她玛到自己的屋做饼，但是大卫毫不辨别就应允了。结果暗嫩放纵欲望，施暴奸污了妹妹。
许多父亲因为没时间与孩子相处，为了满足孩子的欲求，就有求必应，导致孩子任性妄为，甚至犯下重罪！
3. 犯罪恶果 罪上加罪（V15-20）
强暴了她玛，满足了肉体的欲望，暗嫩马上就由爱变恨，把她玛赶出去，完全不顾妹妹的伤害。这种行为真是罪上加罪！
4. 失职父亲 敢怒不教（V21）
大卫是一个失职的父亲。知道暗嫩强奸她玛，他甚发怒却没有管教和惩罚，也没有安慰她玛。而且由于大卫对这件事情的处理不当，造成了后来押沙龙为妹妹报仇的事件。
家里发生了重大的恶性事件，父亲必要起来管教，而不是以‘溺愛’去姑息孩子，这其实是在縱容罪惡，造成更多的恶果！神的爱，从不会放任和不去管教犯罪的孩子！
二、引导儿女 走当行的道 （V22-39）
1. 押沙龙因恨杀兄弟（V22-29）
押沙龙等了两年，大卫都没有惩罚暗嫩，结果押沙龙设计杀了暗嫩。显然，大卫要为这个家庭悲剧负责任！
作为父亲的，是要让家里充满爱！如果知道孩子之间存有芥蒂仇恨，一定要用爱引导儿女，化解仇恨，和睦相处。
2. 杀兄逃亡 偏行己路（V30-39）
大卫应该是对孩子疏于教导，没有从小教养孩子走当行的道，以致孩子多偏行己路。就像押沙龙选择杀兄为妹妹报仇，杀人之后选择逃亡。大卫只能天天为儿子悲哀！
虽然三年后，大卫渐渐从暗嫩身亡的痛苦中走出来，开始想念押沙龙，却无意纠正押沙龙的罪恶。大卫对暗嫩的纵容又重复在押沙龙身上，最终押沙龙也难逃死亡的结局！
总结：
让我们从大卫的家庭得到借镜。身为父亲，不但要以身作则，不但疼爱孩子，也要适当的管教孩子。我们才能成为称职的父亲，为神教养出合神心意的孩子！
2 Samuel 13 Father comes home to fulfill his fatherly duties
GK611 Morning Devotion
26/9/2023
The Morning Devotion Speaker: Ps. Daniel Kew
Introduction: It is the fault of the father to raise but not teacheable.
1. Do not neglect the discipline of your children (V1-21)
(1) Pay attention to children and their friends (V1-5)
David’s eldest son Amnon fell in love with his half-sister Tamar and became lovesick. Amnon’s cousins gave him advice, pretending to be sick so that his sister could serve him and get close to her.
When a person harbours evil thoughts and has bad friends who want to do what he wants, he will be deceived and choose to listen to the evil thoughts and be at the mercy of the evil ones! If there were good friends to advise and guide, perhaps the tragedy would not have happened! Therefore, fathers should pay attention to their children and their children’s friends, whether they are friends who cannot share adversity, or good friends who are trustworthy.
(2) Agree to requests easily and act presumptuously(V6-14)
David responded to Amnon's requests easily. Although Amnon was very act presumptuously and pretended to be sick and asked his sister Tamar to come to his house to make cakes, David agreed without any discernment. As a result, Amnon indulged his lust and violently raped his sister.
Because many fathers do not have time to spend time with their children, in order to satisfy their children's desires, they respond to their requests, causing their children to act willfully and even commit serious crimes!
(3) The consequences of crime adding yet more sin (V15-20)
After raping Tamar and satisfying his physical desires, Amnon immediately changed from love to hatred and drove Tamar out, completely ignoring the harm to his sister. This kind of behaviour is added yet more sin!
(4) A negligent father who dares to get angry but refuses to teach (V21)
David is a failed father. Knowing that Amnon raped Tamar, he was very angry but did not discipline or punish her, nor did he comfort Tamar. And because of David's improper handling of this matter, Absalom later takes revenge for his sister.
When a serious and vicious incident occurs in the family, the father needs to get up and discipline him, instead of appeasing his children with "pampering". This is condoning sin and causing more evil consequences! God’s love will never let go or fail to discipline children who sin!
2. Guide children in the way they should go (V22-39)
(1) Absalom killed his brother out of hatred (V22-29)
Absalom waited for two years, but David did not punish Amnon. As a result, Absalom planned to kill Amnon. Obviously, David is responsible for this family tragedy!
As a father, you should fill your home with love! If you know that there is grudges between children, you must guide them with love, resolve the hatred, and live in harmony.
(2) Flee after killing his brother and go on his own way (V30-39)
David probably neglected to teach his children and failed to educate them in the way they should go. As a result, the children tended to go their own way. Just like Absalom chose to kill his brother to take revenge for his sister, and then chose to flee after the murder. David could only mourn for his son every day!
Although three years later, David gradually got over the pain of Amnon's death and began to miss Absalom, he had no intention of correcting Absalom's sins. David's connivance with Amnon was repeated on Absalom, and in the end, Absalom could not escape death too!
Conclusion：
Let’s take a lesson from David’s family. As a father, you must not only set an example, not only love your children but also discipline them appropriately. Only then can we become competent fathers and raise children who are in line with God’s will!
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